How to Work with More Ease - Part 1
NEW WAYS OF WORKING CAN OFFER MORE EASE.
Ease, who isn’t up for more ease? And yet so much of how we work, and the beliefs that underpin our habits leave room only for stress and endless efforting.
In this two-part article we’ll explore ten work habits that may be well worn and wonderful but might also be where you can bring in a shift or adjustment on behalf of creating more ease.
As you read remember that your current habits don’t need to be abandoned — after all they got you to where you are today.
But habits are also just that… habits. They are ways of working that are on autopilot, and ways of efforting that we barely think twice about. So if we’d like to invite more ease into the day to day, your work habits are a great place to start.
Why?
Because our work habits often formed in a time before we became entrepreneurs.
Perhaps they were born during the long and grueling days of corporate life, where you worked intensely towards quarterly targets and unforgiving standards. Maybe they were shaped by the modelling of hard working parents toiling from early dawn to sundown to ensure the family was fed and the bills were paid. Or, your work habits might be the residue of your time at university where you pulled all-nighters to get the A grades you needed…
Yes, these work habits have served us well. And maybe, just maybe they can also inspire a shift to more ease as you stand on their foundation and evolve them for use today.
HABIT 1: FUTURE FORWARDING
The future is an entrepreneur’s playground and the time & place you wake up to work on each morning. When you’re entertaining new possibilities, setting goals for the next launch, making plans to re-do your website and mulling over other dreams, you are working future-forward. For some the future is uncertain and scary, but for you, the entrepreneur it fuels your optimism and holds your promises.
But only holding this future forward view can keep you from appreciating what you’re doing in the present. The progress we make always happens in the moment so it’s important to remember and acknowledge the steps you took today as well as the ones you’ve already taken to build a foundation for your business. Without including a wider of time we can feel wobbly or like we’re never arriving in our imagined future.
A practice for ease: Include the past & present view
The future is fun, but she’s also a slave whose work is never finished. To feel stable and accomplished in your business and create a sense of self confidence that you’re doing The Thing it’s important to access and include the wisdom of our past and acknowledge initiatives already complete. The future is interesting to explore (and sometimes a great distraction); it is today’s efforts, however, no matter their size that are creating the vision you see — they need to be included in the view.
Practically speaking, on a weekly or monthly basis be sure to take a look at all you’ve been doing. Go back to review your to-do list, review all the client appointments on your calendar, notice the courses you’ve been learning and feel the ground beneath your feet. The future needs to feel like you’re meeting her and this only happens when you can fully relax into the awareness that you are truly walking towards her.
HABIT 2: WORKING (and thinking about work) ALL DAY
Your to-do list is endless. You mark one item done and add two more things on that come to mind. You connect with a client and get off your call with three more action items to tackle before the day is out. A feeling of progress is elusive, and hard to really experience fully when your to-do lists are like magnets for more.
Can you see just how willing you are to do all the things? And can you feel how delicious it is to cross things off the list (which compels you to keep adding)? Your to-do list helps you remember to stay busy, but she’s not so great at helping you to forget what’s still left to do.
A practice for ease: Claiming enough-ness
You can assure yourself that you’ll wake up tomorrow and find your list ready for you. She’ll never say you’ve done enough. That’s not her intent. So it’s time for you to appreciate your bias for work and also stake the ground — you must be the first to tell yourself that you’ve done enough today.
When starting this practice, you may not feel like you’ve done enough. What does “enough’’ feel like anyway? But you can learn this, you can begin to affirm to yourself at the end of the work day: “I am doing enough.” Say it again and say it out loud. And when your mind travels back to work in the evening, you can say it again: “I am doing enough.”
HABIT 3: VALUING A FAST PACE EXCLUSIVELY
Do you have a bias for working quickly? Does the adrenalin of urgency spur you on? Does everything feel important to do now? And perhaps you can see the prevalence of cultural judgments about a slow work pace… that it’s lazy and inefficient and won’t get you to your destination fast enough. So you keep on cruising.
There is certainly a growing cultural emphasis on slowing down, we know working at a fast pace exclusively is not a sustainable nor productive approach to work. Having said this, I’m not a proponent of fast nor slow. I’m much more curious about what is the speed we need to do different kinds of work. And there is my own favourite question of: “What happens when I work at my own pace?”
A practice for ease: Varying your speed
Start to attune to pace and your own beliefs (and the ones around you) about which pace is “better”. Spend time observing your own work habits and reflecting upon the following questions:
When you work at a fast pace what happens with more ease? In other words, which tasks or projects benefit from a rapid pace and why?
What happens best when you work at a slower, more measured pace? And note, that by a “slow” pace I’m not inferring that you’re tired and unable to go fast. Are there some activities that benefit from going slowly?
What kind of work happens best when you work at your own pace? And how do you know what this pace is? When does this pace show up and what kind of work are you able to do when attuned to your own rhythm?
HABIT 4: OVER-COMMITTING & UNDER-RESOURCING
When you made your plan for this past week did you scan across your personal life to see what was going on? How did that scan cause you to adjust/ not adjust the work plan? As entrepreneurs, moms, partners etc. we are accustomed to doing all the things, and working in a way that keeps each week full to the max.
This is a sure-fire habit to keep ease at bay. Overcommitting by filling up the week and remaining optimistic that in spite of a very full personal life (which we all have) you’ll get it all done is a habit that might best be reserved for a handful of weeks a year. And if you’re like many women I know (self included), it barely crosses the mind to consider what would truly allow her to make this ultra-full week a possibility — we’re just so used to doing it on our own.
A practice for ease: Capacity plan & support yourself
A less-full life isn’t the aim here. The questions is to assess capacity. After all, you signed up to be an entrepreneur so that you could do it your way, on your own terms — not in spite of a full personal life, but because of it. This coming week, as you scan your life, assess your capacity for work on a scale of 1–10. No bother about getting it ‘right’. You’re looking to develop your own barometer so you can begin adjusting over time. Then do it again next week. And the following.
And to support yourself get curious about what you will need to get the work done given the capacity number. (I’m assuming you’ve paired back the to-do list if next week’s capacity is low)…. Ideas may include: asking for help, making sure you get take-out on Wednesday, ensuring you build in a walk with your bestie to process the intense home situation going on etc….
HABIT 5: WORKING WITHOUT BREATHING ROOM
A follow on from the habit above. What about margin? Whitespace? Is putting breathing room into your life a practice that you currently have? Do you have a habit of working most of the time? And perhaps the lines of work and home are so blurred you don’t even know how it happened…all the work bleeds together across the canvas.
Being able to do all the things because you’re accustomed to doing them, means only that; you’re skillful at juggling all the balls. So what happens? Our lives get fuller and fuller and somehow before we know it, we wake up without any space for ourselves.
A practice for ease: Build in margin
I hope you can affirm your ability to do all the things, and I hope too that you can see, even if just a glimpse that just because you can work that way doesn’t mean it’s sustainable nor productive. What would happen if you could insert a little bit of breathing room into your life, a pause or two? Consider this to be an experiment — you don’t even need to know what you’d do in that time.
So, try this — build in white space — untouchable blocked out time on the calendar for you… time for whatever you need it to be…. And then you’ve got to hold on to that time for you. If this feels impossible, scale it back and build in margin around your day. Even if it’s simply 5 minutes. Start with 5 and next week make it 10.
Where can you build in more ease?
Small shifts are all that are needed. Building on and waking up sleepy work habits so that they can offer you a work appropriate way now.
And it’s worth repeating — your work habits are good — they got you here — but sometimes, like an old set of tires, we need to bring in the new set because we’re running a little thread bare. So tell me, which one is calling out for a switch? Share in the comments below and let me know what’s helping you access more ease…. because we’d all like a little more of it.
Share in the comments what helps you create more ease in your work day? Perhaps you’ve let go of an old belief, or maybe a new practice has made all the difference.